February 20, 2008...10:00 pm
Narcissism
“The narcissist inflicts pain and abuse on others. He devalues sources of supply, callously and off-handedly abandons them, and discards people, places, partnerships, and friendships unhesitatingly. Sudden shifts between sadism and altruism, abuse and ‘love’, ignoring and caring, abandoning and clinging, viciousness and remorse, the harsh and the tender - are, perhaps, the most difficult to comprehend and to accept. These swings produce in people around the narcissist emotional insecurity, an eroded sense of self worth, fear, stress, and anxiety (’walking on eggshells’). Gradually, emotional paralysis ensues and they come to occupy the same emotional wasteland inhabited by the narcissist, his prisoners and hostages in more ways than one - and even when he is long out of their life.”
Article: Other People’s Pain by Dr. Sam Varkin
Something I thought might interest you… It’s from a Narcissism Book of Quotes by Sam Varkin and you won’t believe how it pains to read those testimonials. Real people like that do exist on Earth and they have no idea what disasters they bring around themselves. The text quoted below might be an example for that….
“I stood there thinking: ‘He can’t mean it.’ I had the shudders, my skin was crawling. This Narcissist-from-hell exuded pure evil. Over the next 5 years he kicked his father out of the house, cut off his pension and slandered him. He cheated his first wife and his kids of money he should have paid, manipulated his business(s), lied to his separate little groups, split away from former friends and family, got ‘religion’, verbally abused his kids, turned other people into his little evil-doer proxies, hired and fired people on a regular basis. He’d cheat himself to satisfy his own greed if he could. About every three months I’d hear about some treachery he was inflicting on someone, somewhere.”
1 Comment
February 21, 2008 at 7:10 am
It is sad but true, there are many people out there like that and sadder yet are the people who fall victim to these people and feel ashamed and helpless to get help.
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